Thursday 4 April 2013

guest blogger // Lisa from getagoodguy.com


Holiday romances are not something I know much about. Love and life started off with the boy in London and then transplanted us here in Nicosia. But it was not a holiday romance. Many expats may have found themselves as expats thanks to a holiday romance; these are the success stories. The magical stories of love across oceans that lasted. But i'm sure amongst the dream endings there are some nightmares too. 

Here, guest blogger Lisa from getagoodguy.com explores if holiday romances can last the distance?

Going on a holiday opens up a whole new world for you, literally and figuratively. Apart from enjoying the sights, activities and sounds of a place you’ve never gone to before, spending a week or two in a beautiful spot on the planet also offers the possibility of meeting a person who could give your vacation a romantic spin that you would never have expected. Holiday romances are but normal for people who go on vacations. With the relaxed atmosphere and beauty of the place you both find yourselves in, being into each other and taking advantage of the opportunity becomes so much easier. In most cases, holiday romances are quite perfect and make you really happy.

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However, holiday romances are also typically short-lived. Unless the person you had a fling with on holiday lives in the same area code as yours, the chances that you will ever see each other again are practically nil. Still, holiday romances don’t have to be as short as they are if you don’t want things to be that way. If you feel like your holiday romance deserves more than just a few days of life, there are several things you can do to make it last a bit longer.

One of the things you can do is to keep your lines of communication open long after you’ve parted ways. If you both agree to keep things going between the two of you, then exchange emails, calls, texts, Facebook or Skype messages on a regular basis. You are, after all, in a long-distance relationship, and the things mentioned above are what people in such a relationship do. Always stay in contact if you want what you have to last.

It would also be great if you actually make plans to see each other periodically. If you have the time and the resources, this should not really be a problem. You can choose to meet on another holiday, or you can actually visit each other’s cities. Many long distance relationships actually work this way, with a number of them really succeeding, if the fact that they ended up getting married is any indication.

A major ingredient of any long-distance relationship is trust. If you both have decided to be in an exclusive relationship with each other, then don’t go out with anyone else. Of course, the combination of loneliness and distance can make dating someone else who is close by tempting, but it is a fact that many long distance relationships have withstood the test of time because the people involved actually trusted each other.

In any case, keep in mind that keeping that holiday romance going is far from being easy. There is a lot of hard work involved. If you’re in this kind of relationship, always be ready for the possibility of having to let go. Clinging on to a holiday romance even when things are no longer working out can only make the both of you unhappy.

About the author: Lisa Jones is the Editor of the blog getagoodguy.com (http://getagoodguy.com), offering frequently updated dating advice for women. (http://getagoodguy.com/internet-dating-advice-for-women/)

1 comment:

  1. I did once met a guy while on vacation and we hit it off right away. I had so much fun and I really thought I was in-love but the reality of live hits on and when we went on our separate ways (back home), we made a promise to continue communicating but I guess promises are really meant to be broken. I admire those who can withstand long distance relationship but I'm not really meant for it, it's too lonely and there's so many temptations around.

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